From everything you’ve told me, she sounds like a wonderful girl.Damaging: Susan's desire to look perfect took its toll on her daughter.(The girl doesn’t work so can go to bed when she chooses.) My daughter ran up a £100 phone bill calling this girl on a mobile phone when I was at work etc.I’ve tried to talk and find out what it is she finds so appealing about the girl but she says she ‘just does’.
Should I just see how this all pans out and hope that the novelty wears off? This isn’t specifically about your child forming relationships at the age when it’s normal to do so, but about the parental fear that they will make the wrong choices and you won’t be able to do a darn thing about it.I like it for myself, and it happens to be the case (statistics show) that people are generally happier that way — but there is no ‘one size fits all’ for relationships, and I detest that narrow, black-and-white approach to the complexity of life. The other day my modest haul consisted of books, skinny black American jeans, and high-top sneakers in grey, studded leather — all bought from small, independent shops.I’d browsed, chatted to pleasant assistants, and enjoyed fresh air and light. What sort of people can think of nothing better to do on a Saturday than trail around a vast temple of triviality, picking things up, putting them down again, then maxing the plastic because it’s impossible to go home empty-handed?So I think it is important for you to realise that there are two issues within your letter, and to disentangle them.Early this year, a woman I know very well told me (almost in tears) that her 20-something daughter was in love..a girl. But I just shrugged, pointing out that if they were happy...That’s a horrible thing to say about another person — sexist, punitive, and demeaning, and another person’s sexuality is none of your business — and I hope you’ll take this as a flag to rethink whatever thought pattern led you there.